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Thursday, October 22, 2020

CONFIDENCE

 To be a great official, you have to have confidence.  But, the officiating world is often filled with negativity.  Coaches, media, graders, and Supervisors primarily deal with bad or negative situations.  When we review video, our focus is usually on no calls and incorrect calls/judgments.  Although there is nothing wrong with pointing out mistakes, what’s important is our mindset moving forward.  Does the negative hurt our ability to officiate and/or our confidence?

This week, I listened to a podcast of Life Optimization Coach David Nurse.  As I listened to David’s message, I found his experiences in reaching his goals was authentic and his message of “Unshakable Confidence” was spot on for officials.  Let’s look at the 7 steps David lays out to have Unshakable Confidence (David Nurse-NBA Life Optimization Coach-mindset coach)…..

1.       Confidence thru comparison.  Study where you want to be.  Don’t necessarily study a person, but the knowledge, look, habits you want.

2.       Confidence thru strength focus.  Human nature takes us to the negative—our weaknesses.  Focus on something others can’t bring, not always to improve on weaknesses.  What am I great at?

3.       Confidence thru redefining vocabulary.  Focus on the process not the words.  In officiating, we focus on No Calls, Incorrect calls, Incorrect Judgements.  But, if that is where it ends, we have failed.  Take those types of calls (words) to the next level of how do I get better?

4.       Confidence thru own personal highlight reel. Build a mental picture of who I am and the good I bring, not what my last bad call or game was.

5.       Confidence thru pouring into others.  It’s not about me, serve others.  A great example is NBA star Steve Nash.  He led the NBA in high-fives given—averaged 239 per game.

6.       Confidence thru choosing a “Que” word or picture.  When things don’t go the right way and our focus is drifting, find a word/phrase to remind me to focus—for example “Unshakable”, “Right Here, Right Now”.  Or, pick a spot on the field or in the stadium to remind you to reset.

7.       Confidence thru preparation to be relentlessly consistent.  Prepare when no one is watching.  Confidence thru preparation.

Think about some people in the Bible that did great works for God:  Abraham, Sarah, Moses, David, Esther and Mary.  God used a roaming Arab man to birth a nation (Abraham), a stuttering speaker to confront Egypt’s pharaoh (Moses), a shepherd boy to lead a nation (David), an exiled Jewish girl to rescue her people (Ester) and a timid teenager to bear the Son of God (Mary).  Times were not always easy for these people, but they found their purpose and confidence in God.  When we face difficulties and seem shaken, can we overcome? Yes, because God does great things through me and gives me the tools and confidence.

The 7 steps give us a pathway to great confidence; these Bible verses provide Biblical foundation of confidence:

“I can do everything through him who gives me strength” (Philippians 4:13)

“Nothing is impossible with God” (Luke 1:37)

“Nothing is too hard for [the Lord]” (Jeremiah 32:17)

“In all these things we are more than conquerors through him who loved us” (Romans 8:37).

“My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness” (2 Corinthians 12:9)

Confidence comes not from always being right but from not fearing to be wrong.

 If you want to here more on theses 7 steps, check out the podcast in the following link: 

https://todddurkin.com/nba-life-optimization-coach-david-nurses-7-steps-to-unshakable-confidence/

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